In a lifestyle D/s relationship, the inclusion of friends and/or family in some of its more intimate aspects is a step which cannot be taken lightly and to be very honest, often. It’s one thing for them to know about your living a “Wife Led Marriage” but something completely different when they are allowed to observe, or in some cases participate, in some very personal rituals and scenes. Before making the decision to include others in your very intimate “inner circle” there are so many things that have to be considered.
In my own less-than-expert opinion, I believe two of the more important factors that need to be considered are trust and whether or not the other person or persons are even receptive to your decision to open up. Trust is incredibly important in lifestyles where a certain level of discretion or even anonymity is important. You’ve got to be able to trust that special someone you include in your activities to understand your needs for discretion and how important they are to you. Trust has another aspect to it – the one which exists between the Dom/me and the sub. It might not seem very “Domme-like” to some readers, but many of these things need to be discussed with your sub beforehand. While I don’t necessarily seek sissy’s “permission” to include others in our play, I feel it’s important that I get a very, very good read on her feelings about it. A sub’s feelings are important to the health of a long term relationship. Ignoring their feelings completely makes for excellent porn, but likely diminishes the quality of life.
Beyond trust, you also need to make sure that your activity or play is something the other party is receptive to. While public or semi-public play can add spice to our relationship, you never want to cross the line of public decency, going “over the top” in front of an unsuspecting public.
After my friend Carol’s last visit here before Christmas where she saw tammy dressed and had the pleasure of receiving one of her pedicures, I made sure to follow up with her after she left to make sure she was comfortable with what had taken place. My conversations with her reassured me that she thoroughly enjoyed herself during the short time she spent with us. Carol is one of my closest lifelong friends. At Christmas, we had promised to stay in touch and get together more often. I thought Super Bowl weekend would be a good time to invite her over once more.
So it was only after such careful consideration that I decided tammy would be punished in Carol’s presence last night. My sister Sherry was also in attendance. The punishment took place after a wonderful dinner sissy had prepared and served so elegantly while dressed in her French maid’s uniform. The heels she wore while adding to the elegance, did point out her need for practice with higher heels. I did allow her to eat dinner with us at the dining room table, something that isn’t always the case during “formal service.” After sissy was done cleaning up after dinner, it was time for her discipline.
Spanking sissy in front of someone else takes the discipline to an entirely different level. The embarrassment and possible erotic humiliation she senses is offset, or perhaps I should say complemented by the feelings I get from exhibiting the power and control I have over her in front of others. Even though sissy has been punished in front of Sherry several times, there is still a certain amount of shame involved as she is stripped of her manhood and her pantied bottom put on display. The addition of Carol to the audience increased her level of embarrassment last night and likewise, my own excitement.
I took my time with the discipline last night. I put the straight back wooden chair in the middle of the great room, directly in front of the sofa where Sherry and Carol were sitting having their coffee. When sissy arrived in the room, I had her lift her skirt in front of them to reveal her white ruffled panties before she lay across my lap. As she lay there, I ran my hand over her butt, commenting to Sherry and Carol how well the panties fit her. Not being in chastity last night, I could feel the physical effect my touches and words where having on sissy. I continued to tease her before the spanking began, making her wiggle her ruffled bottom back and forth several times.
The ferocity of the spanking likely took Carol by surprise. I believe she thought I was done after 30-40 whacks across sissy’s butt while her panties were still on. I proceeded to have her stand up and lower her panties in front of them. With the panties around her ankles, she received another 77 or so swats. Her butt quite red, I decided to stop before I brought her to tears. The subject of bringing a sub to tears is worth a post all its own. As much as I enjoy that, I thought it might be a bit much for Carol.
The spanking completed, I had sissy thank me, as well as Carol and Sherry for watching. With her panties still around her ankles, I ordered her to walk to her special corner for some “corner time.” The corner time was more symbolic than anything, probably about 15 minutes while we all enjoyed another cup of coffee. When I finished my coffee I took sissy upstairs, got her ready for bed and rejoined the girls downstairs.
Last night’s disciplining of sissy in Carol’s presence was just another important step forward in our relationship. Now, there is one more person in our “inner circle”, someone who I can trust implicitly and who knows just how special the relationship I have is. Now that Carol’s seen sissy’s gorgeous butt so intimately, panty shopping today should be a breeze.